trans. queer. nonbinary. genderfluid femme. cat person. Jew. intersectional feminism, recovery, body positivity, writing, gender shit, cats.
anti-assimilationist, anti-capitalism, anti-racism, anti-ableism, anti-transmedicalism
How do you think it makes that person feel knowing that something of theirs (their name or pronouns) is (albeit indirectly) causing someone else to get mad at themselves? We don’t want your exasperation to be self-directed either. It’s nice to have someone understand how it can be triggering, but please also understand that for some of us, it happens often enough that we’d rather not have each one be a big deal.
Also, try to remember: it isn’t about you. Even if you’re getting mad at yourself, you’re going to make that person feel like they have to comfort you in some way, even if that’s just by saying “it’s okay.” Don’t put us in that position where we have to make YOU feel better, it just makes everything worse. When you make a mistake, if you say sorry do it in a calm way. But honestly I prefer if people just correct themselves. So for example, for me, you can do: “she - sorry, they - blah blah” or “she - I mean, they - blah blah” with my preferred method being the second one.
"The fappening"?! Ugh that’s disgusting. I hate men. I haven’t heard that, or much about it at all tbh. I’ve been steering pretty clear of it I guess - in the fact that I haven’t stumbled across anything and haven’t gone looking - but yeah it’s a pretty triggering thing :/ I’m sorry anon, hope you’re ok *hearts*
When people say my name wrong or use the wrong pronouns for me, and then go, “SORRRRY! ugh! SORRY!” I would rather them not correct themselves at all. I’d rather they use the wrong name and wrong pronouns rather than have my name/pronouns associated with that kind of exasperation/annoyance. My name/pronouns are happy things, if you aren’t going to use them naturally and positively, don’t use them at all.
Aww this is really cute :) and makes me miss Blue Chip lots. Thanks for sharing this with me, anon!