polysexual homoromantic genderqueer femme dyke recovery babe intersectional feminist cat lady ~
Loves cats, weed, women, and sex.
I'm a misandrist but not radscum.
I'm obsessed with body positivity and self-love, fashion, and the destruction of the patriarchy. And cats.
what you'll find here:
~feminism, esp intersectional, queer, misandrist, sex-negative, pro-sex worker, choice-critical, everything-deserves-analysis-bc-nothing's-in-a-vacuum-most-everything-is-misogyny-and-or-reinforcement-of-the-patriarchy-but-that-doesn't-mean-we-blame-women-ever kinda feminism.
~nudity, esp chubby ladies and/or AFAB ppl, esp chubby femmes
~anti-oppression, esp anti-racism, anti-islamophobia, anti-cops, anti-white-dude-in-govt-who-wants-all-yr-rights
~trigger warnings used in tags: rape tw, eating disorder tw, abuse tw, domestic violence, racism, fat-shaming
To the best of my knowledge: polysexual is the ability to be sexually attracted to multiple genders, sexes, or anatomies; pansexual is the ability to have sexual/romantic attraction regardless of gender or sex, and demisexual is the ability to sometimes experience sexual attraction after forming a strong bond with the person in question.
So polysexual and pansexual are both in the sexual spectrum, while demisexual is in the asexual spectrum. The main difference between polysexual and pansexual is that pansexual people do not have preferences based on gender or anatomy and fall for the individual, and polysexual people may continue to have gender or anatomy preferences, while not being exclusive to those.
haha also last night I went to a restaurant with my friend and the waiter kept calling us “ladies” and my friend kept giving me sympathetic looks and I was like, “what’s up?” And she was like, “I’m amazed at how well you handle being misgendered like that” and I actually laughed out loud and was like, “I’m more used to being misgendered than not” and she was like, “that really sucks” and I was like “yep. So what are you thinking of ordering?”
(Tw: talk of weight)
yesterday my thin friend insisted she wasn’t thin, she was “narrow” and since her stomach wasn’t ~completely~ flat it wasn’t fair to call her skinny. And she said she didn’t think a size 6 was little, and she was “glad to be not too thin, and not too big, at least by shitty society standards” as if tacking that last bit on would make me feel better. I told her, at least she can go to stores and find something that fits her, to which she replied she couldn’t because of how large her chest is. So I responded, “ok they won’t fit you well, but they carry your size. Most young stores don’t go up to my size.” She gave me an extremely puzzled look so I said, “most stores go up to a 10 or 12, and I’m a 14.” Then she looked shocked. “Really?? You don’t look like a size 14. I’m not just saying that either. Like I would have guessed you were a 10.” So I tell her, that’s another problem I face, because I have such a small bust/waist area, that it would seriously be impossible for me to find a one piece swimsuit that fit, since the size 14s come with a 38DD chest and I’m a 36C. And then she like, didn’t believe me? I was like, I don’t know what to say, but you’re not gonna win this. You’re thin, and you’re privileged for that thinness.
I just really can’t believe a straight-sized person who isn’t “overweight” tried to tell me they’re not thin.
I should have expected this, since I’ve argued with this person before. I said something about loving chubby tummies in crop tops, and she replied that all tummies are good in crop tops. I told her thin people aren’t shamed for wearing crop tops, and she said anyone with a convex tummy was brave for wearing a crop top. I’m sorry, I don’t consider your tummy convex, not when your boobs are significantly larger and from the side your stomach looks more like a hamburger bun than a beach ball.