— Susan Shown Harjo, quoted in “US Poll Finds Widespread Support for Redskins Name” by Ben Nuckols, Associated Press (http://abcnews.go.com/Sports/wireStory/us-poll-finds-widespread-support-redskins-19092814?page=2)
I never was able to comprehend the idea that abuse survivors lie about their experiences for attention.
Is our benefit the perception that we are broken and cannot function properly within the society? Is our benefit continuously being told that our mistreatment was incited by something we did, that our suffering is our fault and not that of our abusers? Is our benefit being told that we exaggerate our experiences and are delusional? Is our benefit having people believe we are doing it for attention because we live in a culture that both vilifies and idolizes trauma vics., personality disorders, mental illness, etc, as being something inhuman and edgy? Is our benefit being failed by a justice system that allows the majority of rapists free to continue living their lives “normally” while we are rewarded with the labels of “whore”, “slut” and “liar”?
There is nothing to emotionally or socially gain through being abused.
Seriously. But I guess some guys want to be able to “save” girls, so then girls want to be broken so they can be saved. It’s especially good if another guy broke her, so this new guy can be a Super Nice Guy and undo all the evil that the original guy did. And since guys want to save us, they suspect that we girls want to make them want to save us. So then we’d lie about abuse? Seriously I think it all comes back to men thinking it’s all about them, and us wanting them.
Hint: it’s not about you. This time it’s actually about us. We’re survivors. It has nothing to do with you. Except for the fact that, by being a man, you not only are a member of the group that abuses us, but you are exempt from that abuse, and benefit from it. Other than that… it has nothing to do with you.
- Racism against white people doesn’t exist
- Sexism against men doesn’t exist
- Oppression of cis people doesn’t exist
- Oppression of thin people doesn’t exist
- Oppression of able people doesn’t exist
- Oppression of straight people doesn’t exist
- Oppression of rich people doesn’t exist
- Speciesism doesn’t exist
- The ‘War on Christianity’ doesn’t exist
- No white ppl, you can’t wear that war bonnet (or bindi, or sugar skull make-up, or locs)
- People are allowed to be angry and react to abuse violently
- People are allowed to have safe spaces, and when someone infringes upon that space, they are harassing you
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You can disagree with somebody about politics
AND NOT HATE THEM
yeah if the issue is whether a new ordinance should be passed on the color of houses or sth
if its anything that oppresses, injures, and/or denies basic rights then yeah I’ll hate people who support it
“politics” aren’t just fun ideas to debate over and then go home and have no consequences…unless you’re a rich white dude maybe
(Source: keelah-kawaii, via )