floral-princen:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

cohensurvive:

can-you-feel-my-heart-2121:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

leopardxss:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

dine24:

fourscoreandsevenyears:

dine24:

nuedvixx:

bevgodsgirls:

This is really, really important. Please take note.

This is entirely important.

This is not important. There are important issues but this is not one of them…

I wouldn’t call it important. But it is relevant.

Not only is this not important or relevant it’s not even factual…. They do not have “a right” to secrecy here. They’re on video for fucks sake. I can’t think of a less secret industry to work in.
Now if you’re asking people politely that’s fine but it would be more effective if that was done personally rather then a tumblr psa and no one is required to honor that request

'If you're asking people politely'
'No one is required to honor that request'
/facepalm so hard muhfuckas wanna fine me
Why do you expect someone to convince you not to share information that could dramatically harm their life? You really wanna be the person that does that to someone? I’ve had family & friends find my videos and not tell anyone but me, that’s respect. I’ve had other friends find out because my ex blabbed and they made my life hell for months. You’re telling me that someone has to convince you not to be that guy. Someone has to ask you politely not to share information that isn’t yours to share and could hurt them, that really says a lot.

If you don’t want people to know about it, don’t do sexual acts ON CAMERA. I get what they’re saying though about how it could harm them. But as far as friends and family being upset over it, you made that choice to be a sex worker and as an adult you should realize that people are going to be uncomfortable and upset about it. YOU chose to get naked on camera, etc so and it’s not everyone else’s responsibility to keep your secret because it’s not a secret when your videos are online, etc. You can’t cry about it when your friends find out you’re a sex worker, you chose that profession.

"I get what they’re saying"- Someone who completely missed the point of what I was saying. But don’t feel too badly about it, you weren’t alone in missing the point. 
THE POINT: People can be more than ‘upset’ and ‘uncomfortable’ about it. Sexual assault/harassment is a very common way people express how ‘upset’ they are that someone they know is a sex worker. Violence is also a popular response, especially if a sex worker doesn’t immediately submit to the advances of people who now think they’re about as deserving of the right to say ‘no’ as a fleshlight (pocket pussy). You don’t know the relationships people have with their family or friends. You can’t even begin to predict how someone will react to this information, which is the only reason that I don’t tell everyone I know and meet. You share this information like a juicy bit of gossip, while I personally have to go through a checklist of objective and situational questions before deciding to tell someone what I do. I love my job, but there are still so many people who will immediately view me as less than human, making life extremely dangerous for me. You picking up what I’m putting down yet? I’m not crying because people don’t like me or call me dirty names, I’m politely informing people that ‘the secret they’re not responsible to keep’ can make them responsible for putting someone’s life in danger and causing all sorts of hell for them. Why is that of no concern to you?
Nobody who is even somewhat serious about working in the adult industry thinks that they are capable of completely keeping people from stumbling upon the fact that they’re a sex worker. There are many ways that people can find this information online, there is nothing I can do to stop that, nor do I make a significant effort to try. We are aware that our work is often recorded and online, and yes, we, better than most, know what that means. I’ve had a few people I know personally find my videos and not tell anyone else but me. That is what I’m asking of people. If you find out, don’t tell anyone else that hasn’t already found out on their own. There is no reason that you would need to tell anyone, none. So if you choose to gossip, knowing the consequences you could inflict on that person, you’re a very self important person who will need to deal with being responsible for however the people you tell react. I know, a lot of you can actually live with that kind of thing, but I’m never trying to appeal to the cruel hearted. You give two shits about the safety of others? Stop arguing and start empathizing. 

But forreal, people. Show some damn empathy. You don’t have to agree with what they do, that’s your choice, but you should at least empathize with what they’re saying and respect that.

Lol no! Not at all. Your making money for selling your self and your image online for money… You have a right to not have said property stolen and reused for free. You have a right not to be harassed and abused for your job. But if I want to share a lovely sex worker and promote her I shouldn’t fear that I may ruin her life or her relationships.. That’s not my job. I don’t feel bad for you, sorry. There are plenty of jobs and if your afraid your choice to be naked on camera might be upsetting to your family, then maybe choose a different career.

"But if I want to share a lovely sex worker and promote her I shouldn’t fear that I may ruin her life or her relationships.. That’s not my job. I don’t feel bad for you, sorry."
Or essentially
"If I want to share information, even if I know it may ruin her life and relationships, I’m going to do it anyway because it’s not my job to worry about her safety."
And to that I say again, I’m not trying to appeal to cruel hearted people.

Some pretty disgusting people on this thread. Fucking cishet men will spend hours on the internet watching porn, drop tons of money on pornographic material every year, and yet still do everything they can do ruin these girls’ lives (even more than the industry probably has). How do you justify consuming a product and then condemning it, and the people who participate? The cognitive dissonance is unreal.I know several girls who do sex work to pay for their higher education because they couldn’t afford it otherwise and they wanted to go to college badly enough that they entered the industry. And guys want to ruin that… for what, fun? A laugh? To further degrade them?Bottom line, if you recognize and out someone as a sex worker against their will/consent, you’re a fucking snitch and a scumbag. Misogynistic trash.

floral-princen:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

cohensurvive:

can-you-feel-my-heart-2121:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

leopardxss:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

dine24:

fourscoreandsevenyears:

dine24:

nuedvixx:

bevgodsgirls:

This is really, really important. Please take note.

This is entirely important.

This is not important. There are important issues but this is not one of them…

I wouldn’t call it important. But it is relevant.

Not only is this not important or relevant it’s not even factual…. They do not have “a right” to secrecy here. They’re on video for fucks sake. I can’t think of a less secret industry to work in.

Now if you’re asking people politely that’s fine but it would be more effective if that was done personally rather then a tumblr psa and no one is required to honor that request

'If you're asking people politely'

'No one is required to honor that request'

/facepalm so hard muhfuckas wanna fine me

Why do you expect someone to convince you not to share information that could dramatically harm their life? You really wanna be the person that does that to someone? I’ve had family & friends find my videos and not tell anyone but me, that’s respect. I’ve had other friends find out because my ex blabbed and they made my life hell for months. You’re telling me that someone has to convince you not to be that guy. Someone has to ask you politely not to share information that isn’t yours to share and could hurt them, that really says a lot.

If you don’t want people to know about it, don’t do sexual acts ON CAMERA. I get what they’re saying though about how it could harm them. But as far as friends and family being upset over it, you made that choice to be a sex worker and as an adult you should realize that people are going to be uncomfortable and upset about it. YOU chose to get naked on camera, etc so and it’s not everyone else’s responsibility to keep your secret because it’s not a secret when your videos are online, etc. You can’t cry about it when your friends find out you’re a sex worker, you chose that profession.

"I get what they’re saying"- Someone who completely missed the point of what I was saying. But don’t feel too badly about it, you weren’t alone in missing the point. 

THE POINT: People can be more than ‘upset’ and ‘uncomfortable’ about it. Sexual assault/harassment is a very common way people express how ‘upset’ they are that someone they know is a sex worker. Violence is also a popular response, especially if a sex worker doesn’t immediately submit to the advances of people who now think they’re about as deserving of the right to say ‘no’ as a fleshlight (pocket pussy). You don’t know the relationships people have with their family or friends. You can’t even begin to predict how someone will react to this information, which is the only reason that I don’t tell everyone I know and meet. You share this information like a juicy bit of gossip, while I personally have to go through a checklist of objective and situational questions before deciding to tell someone what I do. I love my job, but there are still so many people who will immediately view me as less than human, making life extremely dangerous for me. You picking up what I’m putting down yet? I’m not crying because people don’t like me or call me dirty names, I’m politely informing people that ‘the secret they’re not responsible to keep’ can make them responsible for putting someone’s life in danger and causing all sorts of hell for them. Why is that of no concern to you?

Nobody who is even somewhat serious about working in the adult industry thinks that they are capable of completely keeping people from stumbling upon the fact that they’re a sex worker. There are many ways that people can find this information online, there is nothing I can do to stop that, nor do I make a significant effort to try. We are aware that our work is often recorded and online, and yes, we, better than most, know what that means. I’ve had a few people I know personally find my videos and not tell anyone else but me. That is what I’m asking of people. If you find out, don’t tell anyone else that hasn’t already found out on their own. There is no reason that you would need to tell anyone, none. So if you choose to gossip, knowing the consequences you could inflict on that person, you’re a very self important person who will need to deal with being responsible for however the people you tell react. I know, a lot of you can actually live with that kind of thing, but I’m never trying to appeal to the cruel hearted. You give two shits about the safety of others? Stop arguing and start empathizing. 

But forreal, people. Show some damn empathy. You don’t have to agree with what they do, that’s your choice, but you should at least empathize with what they’re saying and respect that.

Lol no! Not at all. Your making money for selling your self and your image online for money… You have a right to not have said property stolen and reused for free. You have a right not to be harassed and abused for your job. But if I want to share a lovely sex worker and promote her I shouldn’t fear that I may ruin her life or her relationships.. That’s not my job. I don’t feel bad for you, sorry. There are plenty of jobs and if your afraid your choice to be naked on camera might be upsetting to your family, then maybe choose a different career.

"But if I want to share a lovely sex worker and promote her I shouldn’t fear that I may ruin her life or her relationships.. That’s not my job. I don’t feel bad for you, sorry."

Or essentially

"If I want to share information, even if I know it may ruin her life and relationships, I’m going to do it anyway because it’s not my job to worry about her safety."

And to that I say again, I’m not trying to appeal to cruel hearted people.


Some pretty disgusting people on this thread. Fucking cishet men will spend hours on the internet watching porn, drop tons of money on pornographic material every year, and yet still do everything they can do ruin these girls’ lives (even more than the industry probably has). How do you justify consuming a product and then condemning it, and the people who participate? The cognitive dissonance is unreal.

I know several girls who do sex work to pay for their higher education because they couldn’t afford it otherwise and they wanted to go to college badly enough that they entered the industry. And guys want to ruin that… for what, fun? A laugh? To further degrade them?

Bottom line, if you recognize and out someone as a sex worker against their will/consent, you’re a fucking snitch and a scumbag. Misogynistic trash.

(via lovesweetvenom)



pluralfloral:

dorsith:

pluralfloral:

men are not taught to question themselves. if you are a man, stop & actually just look at things for a moment. when a womyn expresses pain, discomfort or anger, what is your response? when a womyn asks you to stop doing or to not do something, what is your response? if you are feeling annoyance, frustration, or anger at womyn behaving & asking for to be respected as the humyns they are- why? have you thought much about this?

Are you seriously using “womyn” unironically? 

my post is actually a really great response to this. you feel like derailing my post? stop. think about it. why? why do you feel compelled to try to undermine the way I spell womyn? hm?

(via fatxslut)


flatbear:

draqua:

There’s a difference between a female character who exists in a story and has a romantic relationship with a male character versus a female character who exists in a story to have a romantic relationship with a male character

PREACH

(via mscoolcat)


fogeythebogie:

getoveryourselflady:

How do you expect the male gender to react when it’s thrown in their face every day? The allegation that we alone are sexualizing and/or sexual degrading the female body/gender is wrong. We take the heat but who is in the kitchen cooking it up most of the time? No denying there are some guys out there with a one track mind but there is no doubt some of them got that way because of the constant bombarded of sex, the female body and entertainers like this selling sex for profit. It goes both ways but men are always being blamed as the culprit.

THANK YOU

omg what the ever loving fuck? I too am sexually attracted to women, I too see these images….. Yet I don’t objectify them. Why’s that? OH RIGHT BECAUSE THE PROBLEM *IS* MEN

fogeythebogie:

getoveryourselflady:

How do you expect the male gender to react when it’s thrown in their face every day? The allegation that we alone are sexualizing and/or sexual degrading the female body/gender is wrong. We take the heat but who is in the kitchen cooking it up most of the time? No denying there are some guys out there with a one track mind but there is no doubt some of them got that way because of the constant bombarded of sex, the female body and entertainers like this selling sex for profit. It goes both ways but men are always being blamed as the culprit.

THANK YOU

omg what the ever loving fuck? I too am sexually attracted to women, I too see these images….. Yet I don’t objectify them. Why’s that? OH RIGHT BECAUSE THE PROBLEM *IS* MEN


fogeythebogie:

horroristheremovalofmasks:

"maybe I’m old fashioned but women shouldn’t-"  no you’re a misogynist, now please do us all a favor and shut your mouth before something stupid comes out.

They have an opinion also

WE SHOULD CARE ABOUT HOW MISOGYNISTS FEEL ABOUT WOMEN BC “the have an opinion also” LMAO MALE LOGIC Y’ALL


fogeythebogie:

worthyourweightinfanfiction:

guys expect you to be hairless from the neck down and to weigh a certain amount and for the fat you do have to fall in a certain place and you have to wear make up but not too much and you have to spend loads on clothes they like but not make it look like you’re trying too hard yet all i ask is that they listen to fall out boy and at least try out wearing eyeliner and I’m unreasonable fuck you

NO WE FUCKING DONT YOU IGNORANT ASSHOLE

YES YOU FUCKING DO YOU IGNORANT ASSHOLE

seriously do you come from opposite land I’m confused


pluralfloral:

today, I decided to do things outside of my home. today I walked down the street, took the bart around town, carried my body out & then back again homeward bound. & in that time span, those minutes cumulatively maybe 2 or 3 hours all together, I was harassed by 20 different men at least.

I haven’t slept in days because my insomnia is back. I am stressed & frazzled from looking for a job. I am drained barely crawling along with the small pieces I have of my mental health. But some random fucking guy on the street has the audacity to feel indignant when I don’t respond kindly to being called “sexy bitch” ? & then, I come home to my blog, my small little safe space where I have some some degree of control over things, & I get some fucking asshole trying to antagonize me in my inbox?

even as I am writing this out, even as I was trying to talk about this in the video, there is a part of me trying to normalize it. trying to shut me up. there is an internalized bullshit voice telling me that this happens to everybody & that today was no anomaly.

fuck that.

this may be commonplace, but that doesn’t make it okay. this may happen all of the time, but that doesn’t make it any less detestable when it happens to me. this is a fucking goddamn hard world to live in as persyn seen as inferior, as other, as public fucking property.

I can’t change anybody else, but I have a right to my experience & I can speak my truth. that’s about all that I have. so I’m going to allow myself some grace & some vulnerability, by sharing these words written & recorded. nothing fancy. nothing big. nothing groundbreaking. nothing new. just this.

This is very true and important. You’re totally right about the fact that both dudes harassing women on the street and porn blogs feeling they should have access to our images is male entitlement and their refusal of our autonomy. And I think you’ve made a great link between street harassment and porn blogs on tumblr. We don’t owe anyone shit. Especially not our bodies. They want us to normalize it, but it’s not normal. It’s all fucked bb, and you’re a precious angel who has done nothing to deserve this

jfccats:

for some reason this always irritates me :’)

ugh yes this is one thing I cannot stand, especially when the person who doesn’t like anal sex but wants their potential partner to like it is a straight cis male.  Like um you have a pleasure center in your butt and most ppl you’re interested in don’t, wtf, either I’m pegging or we’re not having anal sex sorry not sorry, you potentially homophobic sexist shitstain

jfccats:

for some reason this always irritates me :’)

ugh yes this is one thing I cannot stand, especially when the person who doesn’t like anal sex but wants their potential partner to like it is a straight cis male.  Like um you have a pleasure center in your butt and most ppl you’re interested in don’t, wtf, either I’m pegging or we’re not having anal sex sorry not sorry, you potentially homophobic sexist shitstain


marfmellow:

just sayin

marfmellow:

just sayin