Masculinity is and has always been just as performative as femininity. The only reason why it is seen as natural and neutral is because of patriarchy.
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While Anne Frank may be the face of the Holocaust of European Jewry, the memory of the experiential reality of the Holocaust is male. The way we conceptualize and remember the concentration camp experience is constructed by male narratives. More Jewish men survived the Holocaust than Jewish women. Due to attitudes towards education in the interwar period, more male Jewish survivors had the education and literary capital needed to craft enduring narratives of their experiences than did female Jewish survivors. There are three foundational male Holocaust survival narratives: Night by Elie Wiesel, Survival in Auschwitz by Primo Levi, and Maus by Art Spiegelman about his father’s Holocaust experience. Never have I seen those three men and their narratives used as a joke, or a meme, or a cheap narrative device, or as self-promotion by an American pop star.
These men are revered, and their narratives taken extremely seriously. And none of them, none of them have been used in a prop in a story about terminally ill gentile American teenagers. They survived, in perhaps the type of heroic arc a John Green protagonist would yearn for. Yet Augustus doesn’t look to them. He doesn’t share a kiss with his girlfriend at Auschwitz. He shared a kiss with her in the Anne Frank House.
Anne Frank is not a prop. She is not a symbol, she is not a teenager who happened to die of an illness, and she is not one of the canonical Jewish male survivors. She is one of many millions of Jewish women and girls who were industrially murdered like livestock, incinerated, and left in an unmarked grave.
A thin person is trying to tell me thin shaming exists. When I told her you can’t be shamed for a privilege, she responded, “why does it bother you to know thin shaming exists, and that women’s bodies are scrutinized and objectified?” Ugh jfc those are not mutually exclusive! Apparently this woman…
…yeah, thin shaming totally doesn’t exist.. if you live with your head in the sand. just because fat shaming exists doesn’t mean thin people aren’t bullied for their size as well.
That isn’t thin-shaming, that’s sexism. Those are all directed at women and the objectifcation of women for men’s pleasure. Shaming women’s bodies is a huge part of sexism and it’s used to control women, subjugate them, and oppress them through objectification. This happens to ALL women. You will absolutely see people fight against thin privilege with sexism. However, this doesn’t make it thin-shaming. You can tell because 1. this same exact thing happens to fat women for being fat, only they get added “you’re not human you’re a cow” in addition to “you’re unfuckable”, 2. this doesn’t permeate into other aspects of society, like professional issues, healthcare issues, or lifestyle issues, 3. this (your “thin-shaming” example) doesn’t apply to men, while fat-shaming does apply to men (although, as I mentioned earlier, men’s bodies are not shamed to the same degree women’s bodies are, so while you’ll see fat men get shamed, they won’t get shamed to the degree that fat women get shamed, but that’s because fat women get shamed for being fat AND for being women, where fat men only get shamed for being fat)
tl;dr: wow, sexism is not the same as thin-shaming, and wow, yes, thin women are subject to sexism, what a concept! All women’s bodies are shamed! That doesn’t mean thinness is no longer a privilege! Also, those images are totally NOT OKAY. They’re very gross and sexist and I do not condone them at all.
A thin person is trying to tell me thin shaming exists. When I told her you can’t be shamed for a privilege, she responded, “why does it bother you to know thin shaming exists, and that women’s bodies are scrutinized and objectified?” Ugh jfc those are not mutually exclusive! Apparently this woman thought the sexism she received was because of her thinness, and not because of her being a woman… all women’s bodies are scrutinized and objectified… that is sexism… AND IT HAPPENS TO FAT WOMEN TOO