Safewords for Communication
My personfriend and I just came up with a great idea!
So we’re both super sensitive recovery babes, and because of that, sometimes we wanna talk about difficult subjects, and sometimes we can’t handle talking about difficult subjects.
Sometimes when your partner is hurting and you can’t support them, it can be very difficult to verbalize that, because you don’t want to further hurt your partner, or make them think you don’t care about them. But sometimes we just cannot be there for other people, to protect ourselves, and that’s ok.
For those times when we need to end or leave a conversation, and can’t find the words to communicate that, we have created a communication safeword! At any time you can say your safeword, and your partner will know you can’t have that conversation, whether it’s because you’re triggered or too sensitive or not in a good place, whatever it is, they know that you can’t continue even if you can’t communicate why.
This is especially great for me and my personfriend, because sometimes we feel things and aren’t sure what we’re feeling before processing it, we just know we aren’t ok for some reason. This safeword puts the importance on our feelings rather than our ability to verbalize them.
(We also talked about how we can use it when around other people, to indicate that we’ve been upset and would like our partner to help us leave that conversation)